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Sexual Role-Play 101: How to Introduce Kinky Role-play to Your Partner

People in healthy sexual relationships share their fantasies with their partners. Introducing a new position or activity can add spice to your sex life. If you’re curious about sexual role-play, here are some tips on how to prepare for role-playing.

What is Sexual Role-Play?

Sexual role-play involves consenting partners taking on different roles or characters in an imaginary scenario during sex. Most partners generally discuss their preferences and limits before engaging in role-playing. A role-playing scene may involve costumes, a fictional location, or an exaggerated version of yourself.

What are Some Examples of Role-Play?

Some popular kinky role-play ideas include:

  1. Sexy doctor.

For many, a partner playing an authority figure like a doctor can be very arousing. If you like to play with varying power dynamics, you might want to play doctor and nurse in bed. You can also try to play doctor and patient relationships with lots of touching and caressing.

  1. Delivery person.

A famous adult video scene involves two partners acting like they’ve met for the first time. Pizza delivery guys, hot plumbers, and repairmen with buff bodies are popular roles to pair up with bored and sexually frustrated housewives.

  1. Massage therapist.

If you enjoy massages and soft caresses, playing a masseuse and a client is another idea that you and your partner may consider. For this role, apply the use of massage oils and light up some candles to set the mood.

How Do I Start Role-Playing with My Partner?

Before you start breaking out the massage oils and the costumes, make sure to do the following first:

  1. Share your sexual fantasies with your partner.

Sexual role-play doesn’t have to be awkward. If you’re in a healthy relationship, you can share your fantasies and things you’d like to try in bed without judgment. Make sure also to ask your partner’s preferences during this step so you two can work something together.

  1. Talk about consent.

This step involves laying out some ground rules for the scenario to the scenario you both agreed on. Make sure to clarify what is okay and what isn’t. Avoid taking your character too far if it violates your partner’s boundaries and comfort.

  1. Pick a safe word.

A safe word indicates to both partners when one person feels uncomfortable with a specific act or scene. Make sure you both agree on a shared safe word that only you two understand.

  1. Communicate during the scenario.

Playing a character during sex may act differently than what you are in reality. Nevertheless, communicate with your partner when you enjoy (or don’t enjoy) the scenario.

If you feel uncomfortable, give them the safe word. Don’t feel bad if you both have a rough start with role-playing. After all, it involves exploring your and your partner’s deepest fantasies. Assure your partner that saying the safe word doesn’t mean you don’t love them anymore. Remember, you can always try again.

  1. Spend time together after the scene.

Include sexual aftercare in your routine after finishing a scene. During aftercare, you can cuddle, relax, and share what you liked and didn’t like during role-playing. For more tips on sexual aftercare, check out this handy guide here.

The Bottom Line:

Sexual role-play can be a fun and exciting way to spice up the bedroom. However, having open communication is key to having fun during role-play. Once you both figure out what works, make it extra special by adding special toys and accessories. Have fun!

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