Tips for Thought

Love Always Wins: How to Make Gay and Lesbian Relationships Last

Love should always win, no matter where you identify in the gender spectrum. Here are a few tips of wisdom on how to make gay and lesbian relationships last.

Now that we’ve put it out on the table, it’s best to identify a few of the many bright things that come with being in a same-sex relationship. One of those is that both of you are aware of what each other needs. Another is that generally, you wouldn’t find it hard to do gestures and acts of love which your partner would appreciate the most. When you’re aware of these bright sides, you can both work towards a healthy and meaningful bond. More than these advantages, here are a few more tips to make your relationship last.

Accept and acknowledge that you will have ups and downs

Just like heterosexual couples, your relationship is also bound to experience conflict from time to time. But, there’s no need to worry! Arguments in a relationship are normal, and it contributes to a deeper bond. This is because every argument leaves a better understanding of one another. For those who are anxious, there’s no need to worry too much if a conflict arises—remember that this is you two against the problem and not you against each other.

Establish healthy boundaries in the relationship

Of course, you cannot remove the fact that you will have interactions with others on a daily basis. This is where establishing boundaries come in. So, to make your relationship a healthier one, talk with your partner and express which actions make you uncomfortable and what you would appreciate if they do instead. For example, you prefer them to be less friendly with others. Communication and comprehension is the key!

Learn each other’s love languages

How you express your feelings may not be noticed by your partner, especially if it isn’t their love language. There are five love languages namely; Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. To figure out what your and your partner’s love languages are, you can talk it out or observe based on your daily interactions with each other. There are many ways to make sure that you love them, but it’s better when you know how to best reach their heart.

All in all, just like any other relationship, the secret to making it last is by making trust and respect the foundation of your relationship. The rest only follows.