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How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Many tend to look back on past achievements as we grow older. In the age of social media, many people post their achievements in real-time—showcasing their growth to a broad audience.

Unfortunately, there are negative consequences to what happens when this behavior becomes normalized. One example is when people begin actively comparing their lives to others, which can affect their self-esteem.

When this happens, a person may feel alienated from their personal goals—making them feel inadequate and depressed, which could leave lasting consequences. To avoid these instances, here are some handy tips to stop the compare game:

  1. Be aware of your triggers.

Try to ask yourself a few questions. Some questions like:

  • Why do I feel envious of this person?
  • Do I secretly want their life for my own?
  • Am I jealous of their success and wish they would fail so I could feel better?

Remember to be honest and truthful with your answers. While it’s uncomfortable initially, it helps to gain perspective on why you feel a certain way about a person. Once you become aware and label your feelings adequately, you can take the following steps to improve.

  1. Understand that life is not a race.

Life is not a race. People who have flourished in school may find it hard to find a job they succeed. Alternatively, others who have failed academically may find unexpected success in doing unorthodox work like freelancing, video content creation, etc.

You’re not alone. Plenty of celebrities have also achieved success at a later stage in life. Some examples include Samuel L. Jackson, Stan Lee, and Morgan Freeman.

  1. Use comparison as motivation.

Comparison is just one of those aspects that helps us connect and relate to other people as human beings. However, when we spend too much time comparing ourselves, we forget to see this as an opportunity for growth. If you feel uneasy or even envious of a person’s success, consider using your feelings as a way for you to self-reflect and eventually become better.

The age of social media has created a game of comparing and sharing. While the comparison is typical, being fixated on other people’s success but not your own can lead you to become dissatisfied in life. If all else fails, consider taking a break from social media every once in a while. Good luck!

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